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Several weeks ago, I had an experience that
has changed my life. I chose to attend the Double
Blessings meeting at Glen Oaks Hospital in Glendale
Heights, IL because the speaker’s
topic was "Taking Yelling Out of Your Home."
That title made it a must for me to attend.
I am so glad that I did. I am writing because
I wanted you to know that you have made an impact
on me at a time in my life when I needed it
most. I would like to take a few minutes to
tell you why what you had to say was so important
for me to hear….
Your program really filled in the blanks for
me. Four ideas that really stuck with me and
those that I try to implement in my home daily
are: take care of me, whomever’s problem
it is - owns it, avoid arguing with the children,
and give the children choices.
Take care of myself, what a concept! Of course,
I have thought about the physical aspect of
caring for myself – exercising, drinking
water, eating well, sleeping, etc. However,
I hadn’t really thought much about taking
care of myself emotionally in the way that you
described it. I really needed to hear that I
should make choices about how I handle situations
based on whether or not my response would be
good for me.
Thinking about who owns a problem has been an
amazing revelation for me. I have realized that
I often take on others problems when they really
aren’t mine to have. Getting all worked
up about a problem that is not even mine just
wasn’t helping anyone. Becoming aware
of who owns a problem has allowed me to have
much calmer reactions to some of the nonsense
that comes from the kids.
Avoid arguing with the children - how silly
it really is to engage in an argument with a
child anyway. I have used some of the one liners
that you mentioned and when I find that I'm
becoming engaged in an argument I try to put
a stop to it immediately.
I have also used choices with my three boys,
which has made a measurable difference. I previously
was doing a lot of the 1-2-3
counting and found with my first child that
he actually learned to NOT listen the first
time. I hope not to make the same mistake with
my twins. It is interesting how they think that
they have more control when they can make a
choice – even when I have actually chosen
the choices based on my own needs.
Thank you both for stepping into my life just
when I needed you. You have empowered me. You
have helped me to realize that I have not lost
control -that I have the ability to make
changes in the way that I parent my children
and handle other aspects of my life. I have
realized that a lot of what I was doing was
trying to change everyone around me, when I
really needed to start taking care of myself
and be aware of how I react to the people around
me.
I really felt strongly about letting you know
what an impact you have had on me. Thank you
for letting me share my story. I
wish you the best as you continue to shed such
a 'logical light' on parenting.
Name Withheld
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"This is the first time in my life when
I feel truly hopeful for my children and for
our family’s future. The methods taught
in this course can save relationships. I feel
empowered. Thank you." Nancy
S.
I thought parent smart from the heart was an
excellent course. Dr. Perlis
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completing this course, I now feel that I have
plenty of effective coping skills to
use when I become frustrated. I encourage
anyone to participate in this course."
M. Walker, CRNA
"Almost
immediately I began to see wonderful results
with my four year old. Our lives are happier
and healthier than ever." C.
Hightower, M.D.
“This
course provided us with new and effective methods
to interact with our child. We put them in practice
and found them very useful." B. Pasche,
M.D.
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now can go into any situation with my kids and
be much more relaxed.” J. Bianchini
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